re pucusions of good deeds

[one arm bandit]

this is a genral moan guys so i apologise in advance,
it starts as mum crashed her car had no readys and couldnt get to work, so as no one else in the family who are all able to work and earn,even thinks to help her out,so i(whom is stuck in the s**te great british benefit system through no ault of my own)skrimpedevery penny i had and managed to buy  her a car to go on with, a few weeks later the dizzy goes kaput, again im expected to do the work as the rest of the family dont know 1 end of a spanner to the other, but it did piss me that i was also another £70 out of pocket left paying for a new dizzy. then last week my older brothers turbo went on his toyota surf,an my mums car(or mine as i paid for it)developed a water leek,, again im expected to sort it out, my bro did pay me for the new turbo i got but not for the £30 diesel i used travelling to and fro so last night i returned his truck on the way home in my van i gets a flat tyre...... this morning i sorted my mums car (again out of pocket)and took it to her work place and had my escort van back again then on the way home whilst driving carfully through the flooded lanes some PRICK in a parcell force van flew straight in to the flood past me JUST and the remains of his wave went over my bonnet, and BANG...... stopped dead in the water, i walked through a mile of sheep piss ridden water to get the farmer and his matbrou to tow me home,(big thanks tony) the end result head gasket has blown out the front of the engine, ive started stripping it and praying the valves arnt bent but they will be., ive spent all day yestarday trying to find cash to buy spanners dutton seirra pick up project, and now this happens, and has any family members offered there help or service no.... is made me look at things a bit differently next time im expected i can tell you

[morrag]

Not much help I know One, but there's nothing as true as the adage,"If you want something done, particularly is its urgent, give it to a busy man!", looks like your the "busy man" in your family. I also believe that 'what goes around comes around', so do a "Life of Brian", y'know,...."always look on the bright..............." as its a case of laugh or cry, and there's no point in the latter............... chin up old son Morrag

[kevsky]

sounds like the old adage is true ,you can pick your friends (or forum members) but you can't pick your family
or the other old adage , you can pick your friends you can pick your nose but you can't pick your friends nose

[andyrennison]

sounds like the old adage is true ,you can pick your friends (or forum members) but you can't pick your family
or the other old adage , you can pick your friends you can pick your nose but you can't pick your friends nose

Rolling about laughing

[dobber]

i have a few staff and find myself asking the ones who do do, to do stuff and forget the ones that are a pain. its not fair on the ones who try. its an easy thing to fall into and seems like the sames happening to you o.a.b.  Ididnt realise i was doing it till it was pointed out to me. you should have a word with em all. cards on the table as it were.

[twisted]

o.a.b feel for ya mate.keep your chin up, with all that you have done there must be a big dose of good karma coming your way 

[andyrennison]

Tell em as it is. I dont see the point in beating about the bush to be honest

[spanners]

O,A,B, if its done the valve,s and possilbley the cam brg, have a look at the old motorcast components bloke at the bottom of ,bill furbers yard at ,prees heath,, (the old rubery owen axle works) dont think he,s far from you and used to be very cheap for cash 

[one arm bandit]

O,A,B, if its done the valve,s and possilbley the cam brg, have a look at the old motorcast components bloke at the bottom of ,bill furbers yard at ,prees heath,, (the old rubery owen axle works) dont think he,s far from you and used to be very cheap for cash 

cheers mike will give him a bell, the cam looks fine which suprised me as most the time the endura de tends to snap quarter of the cam by the timing pully? i phoned a few localish scrappers yestarday some wont split the engine and the only one that has a 1.8 d and will split want £150 for the head with cam and valves      
i do know of a head i may be able to get cheeper its still the 1.8 endura d.e but of a turbo'd diesel, am i right in saying its the same and will fit, because i have in the back of my mind somewhere the water outlet?? is a different shape??

[ByzMax]

Same old story.

You help people and then they just expect it.

This year as with previous ones I've had people that expect me to help and expect it for nowt.



I don't mind helping and for nothing but too many times It ends up costing me one way or another. 



Easy way is to just say no.....Even if it's family

[Mendalot]

Difficult when it comes to family, I have a standard rule for all family members (no exceptions)
my labour is free, but for each job undertaken, It is understood that when finished, I have to be taken to the pub for a few pints of what I fancy!!      
All others pay cash

[spanners]

sign that used to be on the wall at ,potter,s, garage when i was younger  read;

                       in GOD we TRUST..
                       ALL others MUST PAY
                             CASH,,,,,,,,

[ROD]

Sorry to hear youre being put upon Luke.I dont mind helping others out,but only to a point..and that point is when they start to take the p**s. Funnily enough,Im always quick to pay someone when they do something for me,but dont ever like to take anything for doing them a favour!

[morrag]

"I want to tell you a story..", like I said earlier, those that can will always be expected to do so! Many years ago I had a guy move in next door, nice enough bloke, but useless, so that within a short while he was forever knocking my door for assistance, usually with his car. Well, enough being enough, one rainy day he appeared with a tale of woe regarding his front brakes, the pads of which he was attempting to change, with little in the way of tools, and even less in the way of ability and knowledge. Anyway, I went round and gave it a "lookin' 'at", then I said, "Bob, I'll fix your brakes, but whilst doing so, you go and make a start on digging over my veg. patch, which is something you can do, and something I was about to commence", well, he looked at first astounded,then asked if I was joking,to which I replied that it seemed an equitable division of labour to me, so he then declined! at which point so did I, and retired homeward! prob. solved, no more requests to extract one lazy, useless, neighbour from his periodic troubles. He moved a short while later...................

[dobber]

like that morrag