Title: Bad news can be good too Post by: BikerGran on November 10, 2015, 04:41:59 PM I heard last night that my brother died suddenly (remember I posted a pic of his Austin 7 special that's being restored?). He was 76 in years, but quite a bit older physically, he was born deaf and with associated bodily problems, but he's had an interesting life in spite of - or maybe because of that.
Last year he finally found out that he was gluten intolerant and learnt to manage that so he felt much better, and was also helped to get back in touch with my sister (and myself) having refused all contact for some years, and he spent a lovely Christmas at my sister's last year. His health was better, his family relationships were better, his car was getting sorted, and was out doing what he enjoyed - helping a neighbour with house maintenance. He was on the neighbour's roof (only a bungalow) and didn't come down so the neighbour went to see why, and he had simply died! Terrible shock for the neighbour of course but - what a lovely way to go! Bit of a shock for us, the family, as well but it really does help to know that it was just what he would want, to go while he was still busy. If you have been, cheers for reading folks, just wanted to share. Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: the coppersmith on November 10, 2015, 04:51:05 PM great story, sorry for your loss. What a way to go though.
Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: morrag on November 10, 2015, 05:17:17 PM He was obviously a little closer to where he was moving on to and thought the time was about right BG, so RIP old son..............
Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: stinkey on November 10, 2015, 05:30:06 PM Good for you that you got to rekindle some time with him..he sounded like a character ? I fell out with my sister about 4/5 years ago..( she has mental problems ? ) I hope you have good memories of him BG ?
Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: spanners on November 10, 2015, 05:30:48 PM sorry for youre loss bobbi but he went happy doing something he wanted
Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: Mendalot on November 10, 2015, 06:45:33 PM The ultimate blessing has to be passing on, with out months or years of being incapable of doing anything but sitting indoors and relying on others, what a nice way to go. Our condolences to you and the family Bobbie.
Paul. Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: merv on November 10, 2015, 08:29:16 PM The ultimate blessing has to be passing on, with out months or years of being incapable of doing anything but sitting indoors and relying on others, what a nice way to go. Our condolences to you and the family Bobbie. Paul. Couldn't agree more, condolences to you and the family Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: goose on November 10, 2015, 08:32:50 PM condolences to you and youre family bobby...
Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: BikerGran on November 10, 2015, 08:49:23 PM Good for you that you got to rekindle some time with him..he sounded like a character ? I hope you have good memories of him BG ? Yes he was a character and could be good fun and I do have good memories Steve, but there are some bad ones as well - my sister (who's 81) and I both knew that as he got older neither of us could look after him because his deafness and poor understanding of the way life works (he was a kind of 76 year old teenager) made him suffer a lot of frustration which could build up to terrible rages. Not his fault, and we loved him, but knew we could not live with him - so this worry is now gone. He was obviously a little closer to where he was moving on to and thought the time was about right BG, so RIP old son.............. Love that Morrag - sounds about right!Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: oldmetalhead82 on November 10, 2015, 10:24:01 PM Condolences to you and your family.
Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: scannerzer on November 10, 2015, 10:27:52 PM RIP BG's brother,sorry for you loss
Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: hunter on November 10, 2015, 10:38:36 PM My condolances to you and family.
R.I.P. Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: Olds on November 11, 2015, 08:31:23 AM Sorry to hear of you loss BG.
Think thats the way most of us would like to go. Perhaps not on a roof, but quickly. Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: No Sound on November 12, 2015, 12:12:27 AM Sorry to heard about your brother BG but very glad that you had a lovely Christmas together. Yes he would have been frustrated and angry at times but he would have known this and also and regretted it which sometime can make things more difficult or harder to say sorry so distance can grow between people as isolation sets in. The good thing is all you came together as a family and I and sure that would have pleased him most. Andy
Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: JayJay on November 12, 2015, 10:55:55 AM My condolences Bobbi.
Here are two sayings you might like. I think the latter links to what Morrag has already said. "I would rather die a meaningful death than to live a meaningless life." Corazon Aquino and "If you die in an elevator, be sure to push the Up button." Sam Levenson Title: Re: Bad news can be good too Post by: BikerGran on November 12, 2015, 05:16:31 PM JJ I love the second one!
And Andy - you're right of course about the isolation thing setting in and being difficult to say sorry! So glad we made the breakthrough! Thanks for all the lovely comments, it's so good to be able to share with a group like this! |